I never was until recently. Never had the chance to really enjoy them I suppose. They’re a little too, I don’t know…comfortable?
And I think that's the word I use most often when people ask how I am today.
Back in 2008, I became part owner of my first business. Didn't cost me a dime. Got it through sweat equity. Looking back, I think that's how I've gotten to the point I am now.
What I've done and what I do isn't the easiest.
There's times when I'll work for 30 hours straight with no sleep. Probably unnecessary. But I have a why.
See, back in 2015 I was blessed with my first son. He's my biggest inspiration, the toughest person I know. My son also happens to have Down syndrome.
What does that have to do with being "Self Made?"
Well, a lot actually.
As my son was growing up, I actually owned 4 different businesses with physical locations. 1 sports bar, 1 nightclub, 1 pub, and 1 salon.
Yeah, I know. The salon is kind of random.
The point is, even when I was in charge of these places, I was never actually in charge.
You're probably thinking I had terrible employees or didn't know how to hire people. But that's not the case. I had some amazing staff over the years. A few weren't so great.
It wasn't that they didn't do their jobs. It's that I found myself wanting to do something while at work. Then often times to show how much of a "good leader" I was, I would find myself doing random tasks like cleaning toilets after a football game.
It absolutely won me some loyalty with my staff. But loyalty doesn't pay bills.
Let's stop here for a second. In no way am I saying you should be dishonest or disloyal to anyone. That's not the point.
The think that was in charge was my business. The business was working me and I wasn't working the business. I would find myself caught up in tasks that weren't the best use of my time keeping me at work for 80+ hours a week.
What does that have to do with my son?
Glad you asked. During those 80 hour work weeks I missed everything. All the firsts.
The first time he rolled over. The first time he crawled. The first time he ate solid food, to the first time he walked.
These are firsts that I'll never be able to get back. There's no amount of money that can buy you the time you probably need more than you think.
And then the worst thing in my life happened. I was blessed with a daughter, but tragically she passed about 10 hours after delivery.
So I did what probably 95% of fathers would do. I attempted to drown myself with alcohol. In that process, I lost everything I had worked for. I lost all of my businesses.
I was bitter and angry at the world and the good man above.
It took years to forgive.
But this story has a good ending. Eventually I pulled myself up. I refocused. My daughter gave me the blessing of understanding there will never be anything in my life that is as scary or painful as that day. And because of her, I now don't worry about starting a new business. Even if I have no knowledge. I'll find a way.
And here we are. Years later I currently own 8 different brands and a software company (something I knew nothing about), am engaged to the love of my life, and have an amazing relationship with my son.
The money came back. But this time it was even more. And the funny thing is, that's not even the best part about it.
Obviously my son and family come before anything. But along my journey I started helping others. I've been fortunate enough to be blessed with the ability to learn online business concepts and through trial and error have success.
In addition, I've had one of the most rewarding feelings in my life.
I've got the opportunity to help others. And I have. Dozens.
The money is great don't get me wrong, but it's not for me. It's for my son in the future. My reward is giving people the skills and knowledge to quit their job or find some peace with finances.
And that's what I do now. In addition to my businesses, I teach others like yourself how to make a very good living from the comfort of their own home. They're making the digital dollars while wearing their slippers.
Honestly, I wish I would have done this sooner.
You ready to be your boss?